"The weight is not coming off."
"I should have had the other surgery."
"I had this done 3 months ago and have only lost 20 lbs."
"I feel like I am dieting."
I belong to a couple of support group forums, chat boards, weight loss forums and other places. I hear these things all of the time. What did you think you were getting yourselves into? This is not a magic fix.
I did not wake up one morning and weigh almost 300 pounds. I am not going to wake up tomorrow and weigh 120. I am sure that if I had gone the bypass route I would weigh MUCH less by now. I would probably be down 120 pounds instead of 60 pounds. But with the band I still have all of my hair, do not need to take additional vitamins (other than the normal daily ones I have always taken) and all of the calories and nutrients I take in get absorbed.
Yes, it is work. It is a LOT of work. It is HARD work. It IS being on a diet. I pay attention to what I eat. How much I eat. When I eat, etc. This is the way that normal people do it -- They just do not need to do it as diligently I do.
"I am just waiting for my fills to start working." "I am just waiting for proper restriction."
Waiting for something to happen? Stop waiting and be proactive. Again - this is NOT magic! Nor is it rocket science. Eat less, move more. Just because you CAN eat a ton, does not mean that you SHOULD eat a ton. Keep in mind that you spent a ton of money for this surgery - it is a tool - not a magic wand. Why would you spend $30,000 and then woof down a whole pizza!?!?! Just because you can?
Doing things because you could is what got you here in the first place.
All of these things frustrate me to no end. People just waiting for life to happen to them. People waiting for weight loss to come to them. People waiting for someone or something to do the work for them.
Do the work yourself. You will be a better person for it.
Of course I may just be projecting.
Hi Keb,
ReplyDeleteI saw your post on the DFW bandsters listserve and decided to check out your blog. I'm newly banded (still have the little steri strips!) and I know and understand your frustration. I use to be a WW leader -- life got in the way and my bad relationship with food got all out of whack. I look at the band a a fresh new start: no more "clean your plate", or "if you eaetthis you can have that", or "eat to numb the pain". I have a tiny new tummy that requires I change my habit -- it really is a BAND new start.
Em
Em - How are you feeling? How are things going?
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, it IS a BAND NEW START!!!